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A break up is one of the most trying times in one’s life. You may feel like your entire world is falling apart and that you are never going to be good enough for anyone else. You get angry at yourself, your ex lover, everyone around you. Seeing couples makes you sick to your stomach and you have an insatiable jealousy for all of your attached friends and family. Of course, getting your ex back is on your mind all the time. You think about a multitude of ways to get your ex lover back in your life. Some are desperate and some are just plain pathetic.
Here are some ways to help you get back with your ex lover and save face in the process.
One of the ways for you to get your ex lover back would be to just sit down with a journal or piece of paper. List all of the positive attributes of your ex lover as well as the cons. Think about why the relationship ended and think about the fault of the ending. Try not to place blame at this point. Think openly and place yourself in your ex lover’s shoes. Understand that there are times when a breakup is inevitable and also understand breakups are mostly about indifference.
Think about ways to change yourself for the better. If you have any bad habits such as smoking, try and quit now. Avoid any unnecessary drinking and other forms of substance abuse during this time. Get into touch with who you are as a person. If you’re trying to get your ex-lover back, looking like a pathetic mess will get you nowhere. Once you’ve got that part taken care of, go ahead and forge ahead.
Take a day and get yourself spruced up. From personal experience, after a breakup there’s nothing better than getting pampered like a queen for a day. Go get yourself a new hair color and/or haircut. Buy yourself a new outfit and get a facial, massage and wax. Also, go ahead and get a manicure as well as a pedicure.
Once you’ve grounded yourself with a bit of sprucing up, take yourself out on the town with a few of your friends and just enjoy life. Go see a movie you’ve been wanting to catch. Go out and have dinner, or just hang out to relax. When you get home, reflect on how much of a good time you had and if you have to, write it down to reflect upon later.
Once you have worked your magic, let the world work on its own. If the relationship is meant to be then your ex will be back quicker than you can blink an eye. Getting your ex back is absolutely possible but you have to know how to play this game. There is not much room for errors!
write by Sigourney